Love is All You Need

While I am away from my blog, I am honored to showcase a group of talented writers who have stepped forward with their unique voices in support. Every guest writer who is featured here is one that I strongly suggest you follow. Today, I am pleased to share with you this guest post from Dave at Folk About Baby. I would greatly appreciate it if you would stop by his blog and leave him some comment love.

Love is All You Need – A Simple Philosophy for a Complicated World

Love is One of Baby's Most Basic Needs

Love is One of Baby's Most Basic Needs

Love.

Love is the greatest of all values, the most important of all emotions, and the guiding principle of my existence.

By looking for the love in everyone and everything, I am able to go about my time here with deep joy and profound peace.

More than anything else, I want to teach my daughter about love. Even if I accomplish nothing else as a parent, if she learns love, I will know I have done my job well.

And how do I teach her love?

By example, of course!

Every day, I tell her how much I love her. I tell her I love when she does something to make me proud, and I tell her I love her when she does something that might frustrate me. I tell her I love her when I wake her up in the morning, and I tell her I love her when I put her down at night.

I shower her with hugs and kisses, and I sing her silly little songs about my love for her. When I tickle her, that’s my love being playful. When I dance with her, that’s my love being vivacious. When I feed her and change her diaper, that’s my love being nurturing.

When it comes to the future, I’m often guilty of assuming what my daughter will be like when she grows older. I project my own desires onto her.

When I do this, though, I remind myself that I need to step back and let her blossom on her own terms.

As long as she does so with love, I know that I’ll have nothing to worry about.


How do you incorporate love into your parenting? What has your little one taught you about love?


Dave Higgs-Vis is a father, a husband, a blogger, and a chef. If you enjoyed this post, you can find more like it at Folkabout Baby, a parenting blog dedicated to helping you to become a better parent and raise happier children. He’s also on Twitter as @FolkaboutBaby.

5 thoughts on “Love is All You Need

  1. Great post Dave!

    “More than anything else, I want to teach my daughter about love. Even if I accomplish nothing else as a parent, if she learns love, I will know I have done my job well.” – I wholeheartedly agree with you on that point and feel exactly the same way.

    There are couple of things I’ve been thinking about lately when it comes to love and parenting…

    One is that the child’s perception is so important to understand – how many times did I not feel loved as a child because I was being yelled at or disciplined in one way or another? It took me years to begin understanding what it meant to be loved. I know with my mind that my parents love me and always have – but that’s now that I’m an adult. A child can find it very difficult to make those connections and a parent has great responsibility to ensure consistent, real understanding of our love from the child’s point of view.

    On the other hand, I think love does cover a lot of error. And that’s where it comes into things like different parenting styles, etc. – I’ve seen this a lot with my in-laws who help us with childcare. They have very different views on raising children than I do – but their love for my daughter shines through so much that the joy she gets from being with them is palpable. I know too that I will make mistakes, but I hope that modeling love for her and showing her every day how much I love her will redeem those mistakes.

    And just as you say – if my love is what she knows in the end – if she learns love because of my parenting, then I will have accomplished the very best I can for her. Thank you for this awesome post! :)

  2. I agree that showing your love to your daughter or to even everyone will generate more love. I salute you with what you are doing with your daughter and how lucky she is for having a loving and responsible father like you. With all the love that you are giving to her, she will grow up to be a fine lady and will also continue to spread the love.

  3. What a beautiful reminder.

    “By looking for the love in everyone and everything, I am able to go about my time here with deep joy and profound peace.” – I feel the same way, and hope to model this attitude for my daughter as often as I possibly can.

    Thanks for this, Dave.

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