There were three things that were big surprises to me:
- I enjoyed walking around searching for things to do that were kind.
- The more removed a person was to me, the easier it was for me to give a random act of kindness.
- The more I gave, the more I received.
This month gave me a reason to be fully present in every moment. In order to be open to an opportunity to give kindness, I had to stay focused on what I was doing. I couldn’t get caught up in remembering the past or worrying over the future because I would miss the chance to give.
I found the easiest act of kindness to give were those I could give to strangers: offering to put away someone’s trash, giving someone the closest parking spot, paying for someone’s coffee, giving kudos to breastfeeding, babywearing or just parents obviously connecting with their kids. And the list goes on and on. This was the easy part for me, remember?
The next difficult were to friends then my children and husband. Finally, giving kindness to myself I found the most challenging and the least given freely. The closer someone was to me, the more attachment I felt to the outcome and the less open I felt to giving. I did it anyway and then I usually felt like running off to hide under the covers. But, even running away, the boomerang effect from giving followed behind me and hugged me anyway. I couldn’t escape all the good going around.
Most of all this month has given me far more than I could possibly hope to give out. The more I gave, the more and more I received. I am not certain it is possible to give freely without receiving something in return. I received more kindness and compassion that I could have imagined. Smiles and positive comments, people telling me how things I had done for them helped them, gratitude and support. I am fortunate to be surrounded by an exceptional group of people. This month has helped me be more open to remembering that more often.
I was excited to win the Code Name Mama: March of Kindness 20 day wrap up give away for the Goddess Gift Set from Rock Paper Tree. Here are my little helpers, who have been involved in many acts of kindness with me all month, so excited to open it.
Here’s what was included in the Goddess Mama Gift Set (It’s like the gift was especially put together for me. I love it!)
- A 100% pure beeswax aromatherapy travel candle in a recycled tin. The therapeutic aromatherapy blend combines only the finest essential oils with the purest beeswax. Absolutely no fragrance or synthetic scents are used. The wick is made of 100% cotton and contains no lead or metal. This candle is called “Vitality“: Lemongrass-Grapefruit is a zesty, refreshing fusion that stimulates the senses and restores the spirit.
- Jodi Bergsma Journal: Printed on wood-free paper. The journal features pages lined on one side, unlined on reverse, with various quotes throughout. Elastic band closure.
- Clear Quartz Wand with rainbow inclusions.
- Z’s Remedies: Pure Joy (1/3 oz): Great for depression and low energy! Shake well and put on wrists and temples. Ingredients: lemongrass, lavender, orange, frankincense & lotion.
(“Pure Joy” is trademarked by Z’s remedies.)
- Sinamay Natural Organza Mesh Bags are hand made from natural fibers. These Eco-Friendly products are made by artisans in remote villages around the world – creating jobs and fair wages for hard working communities.
And here’s G, sharing his favorite, the wand:
I have replaced my pocket-sizes rescue remedy with the Pure Joy and I like its results for anxiety from PPD. I mean, could you have custom created a better gift set for me or what? I was so excited to win the gift set that I decided to pay it forward and give away 2 gift certificates to some other lucky March of Kindness Participants. The first was from Cashmere Cuddles and the second was from Syrendell. Both are WAHM businesses run by terrific women who I feel blessed to know in real life.Please go check out Rock Paper Tree, Cashmere Cuddles, and Syrendell when you have a chance.
And, finally, what ended up being my biggest project for the month was commenting on March of Kindness posts. I didn’t comment on them all, after the first link up, but I’ve done well over a hundred. And I didn’t get away with giving all those comments without receiving. I found a ton of great blogs that I’m enjoying that I never would have found without this project. I’ve connected with so many people who I admire and with whom I have much in common. I’ll finish it up with commenting on the wrap up posts. And am looking forward to continuing these connections.
No project like this is complete without an intention for the future. I learned I am best at giving kindness when I’m open to the possibility of giving. I also learned that I am more open to receiving kindness when I am present and open for it. Moving forward, I will be working on being open to the possibilities of giving and receiving kindness as well as finding my boundaries to feel safe while open.
Thank you Dionna from Code Name: Mama for the inspiration. Moving forward feeling grateful. One step at a time. Marching along. In Gratitude
Aside: I wrote this in about 15 minutes while nak and didn’t feel like editing-Promptly forgot about editing. And today my kids are sick so I won’t be editing. Practice in letting that go…and never reading it so I’ll never know about horrid mistakes…a small kindness for myself