Wordless: One of my Best Gentle Parenting Tools

Timer

Timer

This simple kitchen timer is one of my go to tools for gentle discipline. It takes the power struggles out of ending activities. Instead of my saying, “It’s time to be done.” I say, “The timer has xx minutes left…” No more arguing with mom for power. This timer diffuses the focus onto an inanimate object. Plus, they love setting it themselves.

Do you have a go to gentle parenting tool? I’d love to hear from you.

Posted with WordPress on my BlackBerry while NAK in the dark (enjoy the typos 😉

3 thoughts on “Wordless: One of my Best Gentle Parenting Tools

  1. That’s a great one.
    My best technique is stil distraction. It’s sort of like bringing out the clown car sometimes. For my girl, she needs help breaking the circuit once she’s got something in her craw.

  2. For my children, who have trouble with transitions, giving them a 5-minute (or 3-minute or 1-minute) warning when we’re getting ready to change activities has been invaluable. If there’s a specific time we need to leave to do something, I’ll tell my daughter the time (or I’ll tell her what time we need to be there and how long it takes to get there and together we figure out when we need to leave to get there on time) and she can watch the clock herself.

    At one point, a child psychologist suggested that it was better not to use an actual timer because it ends up looking to the child like the timer is in charge of all of us (even mom and dad) and that the focus should be on following what the parent says, not what the timer says. I don’t know that I totally agree with that, but I’ve avoided using an actual timer anyway, just to be on the safe side. I guess I filed it in my mind as similar to using a pacifier vs nursing to soothe a child (without the orthodontic and milk supply issues); I’d rather err on the side of my kids depending on a person than depending on an object.

    But like I said, I’m not sure it’s even an issue, and it sure would be helpful sometimes to have the focus taken off of me in order to minimize power struggles. Mostly the psychologist’s advice has lodged in my mind and kept me fearful of using a timer in an almost superstitious way. Plus, I have trouble keeping track of where my timer is.

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