Letter to Littles: August 2011

Letters for Littles

Inspired by Sausage Mama, I am writing a monthly letter to my children. I hope to capture these moments in time because they go so quickly. To quote Amber Strocel, “blink and you miss it.” (two great, positive blogs, please check them out)

I hope you will join me in writing a monthly letter to your children and linking it up here. Feel free to grab the badge for your website and let me know when you post so I can add you to the list of participants.

Dear Little Buddhas,
I have been struggling with what to publish this month for your letter. I believe in this project. Capturing what has happened with you each month is important to me. You change so fast and I love you for that. Writing about what you have been doing each month allows me a small hug goodbye to that child who has been replaced by another whom I adore just as much.

The past few months have been one of the most difficult times for our family. There have been many changes. It’s not always simple to navigate the world outside our family with trust, as we have learned during this time.

My need to protect you is not being met.

While I write here about my experience, I feel that publicly sharing direct events of your lives is not fair to you. Granted, it is my POV on your milestones, activities, stats, turns of phrase and interests, but I do not feel it is appropriate under our developing circumstances. It is one thing for someone to take what I write about my feelings and use it for their own purpose. I feel I need to keep you safe from as many negative reflections as possible.

Perhaps my protection instinct is triggered by recent events. Perhaps I am overreacting. Perhaps I will feel differently in the future. But, my strong feelings now are that until you can give informed consent about how much to share directly of your lives, it does not feel right to publish them.

I will still keep writing the monthly letters to you. But, I will no longer be making them public. I will continue to offer the space here for the other writers to link up each month and to support them in their own letter projects. I am also open to someone taking over or sharing this project with me, especially because it might feel important to them that the letters be publicly shared each month.

Stay safe, little Buddhas. May I teach you strength to weather the storms with compassion for self and others.

Yo’ mama
August, 2011

If you would like to participate in the Letters to Littles Project, feel free to link up your post below. Letters are written during the last week of the month, but feel free to write and link up whenever you feel inspired. You can use the hashtag #letterstolittles on twitter as well. And don’t forget to click over and Grab the badge (it’s set up to promote the project, not my personal page. So you won’t find my name on it):

Letters to Littles Participants:

Pop by their blogs and leave a little comment love, won’t ya’?

11 thoughts on “Letter to Littles: August 2011

  1. I miss your writing about the little ones. You inspired me to start this gift to them (as my momery sometimes pushes out the little things and holds onto the negative). I’ve been caught up in things the past two months and have missed it, but I still enjoy the exercise of caring and expressing minor mildstones as just as important as major ones. Although I completely understand the need to protect first. I hope when you are ready, you will share again. You write so beautifully.

    • Thanks, B. I’ll keep the full-on monthly letters private, but I am working toward a compromise with what feels safe, yet keeps to the spirit of the project. I’ll see what I come up with for September. I look forward to reading more from you, too

  2. I just “wrote” my letter in my head as I drove yesterday. I’ve had a hard time getting this together (I think I missed last month). I make note all month and then forget…
    Now… about the sadness I feel through your writing… I feel you in my heart and I want to just embrace you and surround you and your beautiful family with love and light.
    I support you 1000% in whatever you choose to do.
    Maybe you can just write to your little ones about something you’ve learned or thought each month that suprised or inspired you. I want to incorporate some of that for my daughter too.
    I know how much I would LOVE to read about who my mom really was and what she felt when I was a child.
    Just a thought.
    I have no idea of your situation, but something is stirring the warrior mama in me to stand in front of you or beside you against whatever is hurting you. Or whoever. (Whomever?)

    • Thank you, Mendy Lady. I’m so glad you decided to participate! I look forward to reading your letter. I’m thinking (and I’ll see if this works) that I will write 2 letters every month; 1 will be careful not to share too much for them while still sharing (????) and the other will be the private letter published on my private blog.

      I will be sharing as I feel comfortable. I have written a lot. The difficult part is causing no harm to myself or others with what I share. Some people are not ready to deal with my truth (notice: not *the* truth) of how I’m feeling. It will take time to search for that middle ground.

  3. Awww…I’ll miss reading your letters, Z (I love your observations and the love that always comes through so clearly) but I understand the reasoning behind not sharing them.

I love comments and try to reply to each one. I look forward to connecting with you. Namaste

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