Namaste: 19 November 2011

Anjali Mudra: Gratitude Namaste

Anjali Mudra: Namaste

I’m inspired by Amanda at Let’s Take the Metro‘s weekly gratitude post. So, I’m going to cultivate a little more gratitude in my life by joining her on a quest to be thankful until we absolutely exude gratitude. I hope you’ll also join Amanda in sharing just five things you are thankful for this week. Thank you to Amanda for helping bring back genuine gratitude.

This week I am grateful for:

  • Date Nights. My husband and I spend one-on-one time with each of the kids every week. I spend alone time with my husband a couple of times a month. My kids started asking for date nights after they say their dad and me going out together. He and I spoke about it as such a positive thing for us that they started asking for “date nights,” too. It is a necessary luxury for our family dynamics to have this time for each of us.
  • Relationships. Building on the idea of date nights, my husband and I have emphasized the importance of remembering that each person has a unique and independent relationship with every other person in our family. I honor the relationship that my sons have with each other with equal importance as the ones I have with them. They know that and call me on it when I overstep. It has eliminated issues around jealousy and rivalry, at least so far.
  • Alone time. I learned while deep in PPD that I had to have date nights with myself (and so does my partner.) On alternating weeks, one of us schedules a night off, even when we don’t feel we need it. And when one of us does need to take a break, the other does their best to step in and give that time to recharge.
  • A partner willing to put up with a horrible mess. I’m participating in both NaBloPoMo and NaNoProgMo this month. At day 19, we’re up to our ears in laundry, dishes, and stuff everywhere. My partner has never once complained about the state of the house. He has quietly kept up with what he can and supported me to have this time to write. We spoke about what these project meant to be beforehand, and while I didn’t know how bad the house was going to get, I am humbled to have someone so completely on my side; especially when I think about how he’s getting nothing out of this project except my feedback to him.
  • A son who loves ballet. The lack of boys in ballet has already gotten on his radar at the age of 5, but he is enjoying it so much that he’s sticking with it. I have been talking with him about deciding whether and when he wants to accept other people’s opinions about the things he wants to do. I’m hoping to help him understand that he doesn’t have to accept any limitations except his own. It saddens me to see the pressures he’s already feeling about ballet. I hope he keeps this love as long as possible.

I feel as though I just stood under a clear waterfall. Thank you, Amanda, for reminding me to give my gratitude a voice (oops! Does that make 6? 😉

NaBloPoMo 2011

9 thoughts on “Namaste: 19 November 2011

  1. Pingback: Day 266 – Time for Acceptance « A Year Of Living Wisely

  2. I think the theme you have this month is beautiful. I am especially admirable of your son in ballet. I was thinking of the very same subject just the other day when I told someone that if I ever had a son, he would know how to dance. I wish this was something stressed by more parents. It might make for “better” boys all around.

    • Thank you, Amanda. I should give credit to my friend who asked me to try ds1 in ballet to keep her son and daughter company. She’s a bit more forward thinking on these things. I wasn’t considering it until she asked and then, I was like, “duh! I’ll bet he would love ballet. It’s right up his alley!”

  3. Your blog has been a wonderful find for me tonight 🙂 I love NaNoProgMo – it’s really just what I need. (Yes, I signed up.)

    This post is lovely. When I saw what you wrote about your son, I had to tell you that my 16 year old (advanced brown belt) son plays the flute. When given the choice, at the age of about 10, he decided it was the instrument for him. He still loves it. I’ve noticed it’s been a great way for him to meet girls too ;D

    • Thank you for commenting, The Paranormalist. I’ll hope my son holds on long enough that the girl factor will be factor to him (he’s a yellow belt in jujitsu, too 🙂 If he is old enough to realize how many girls would be interested in him if he’s at the ballet studio…

  4. I love that you prioritize time alone just the same as time with your spouse and time with each of your children. That seems like such a wonderful way of maintaining dynamic, healthy relationships all around. I love your weekly gratitude posts, too 🙂

  5. I love how your family nurtures each relationship. It’s a big deal in a big family. And I have to say, I’m a bit relieved that you aren’t getting all your laundry and dishes done with all the extra writing this month. I can allow myself to feel defeated by my inability to get it all done and my creativity will get derailed first. Somehow knowing that we all have to make the same choices and let things slide sometimes is a great comfort.
    I hope your son continues his love of ballet too. For as long as he loves it.

I love comments and try to reply to each one. I look forward to connecting with you. Namaste

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