I Let Mama Sleep in the Big Bed

Welcome to the Safe Cosleeping Blog Carnival

This post was written for inclusion in the Safe Cosleeping Blog Carnival hosted by Monkey Butt Junction . Our bloggers have written on so many different aspects of cosleeping. Please read to
the end to find a list of links to the other carnival


Dear Mama,

I know you have been through this cosleeping journey with my big brothers, but I want you to know that I’m happy to be in your bed, now that you don’t have any doubts about sleeping together. It is nice having a mama who understands that sleeping together is what I want and treats this as natural.

I feel safe when I am next to you. You are warm and comforting. I feel the rhythm of your heartbeat and breathing. They are familiar to me from before I was born. My heart syncs with yours. I smell your sweet breath and match my inhales and exhales to yours.

I smell your milk and know that I can find comfort and food whenever I need them. I remember being so new after being born that I didn’t use my eyes to find your milk. I would nuzzle you until I could start the sweet flow. I remember the ecstasy would overwhelm me back into deep sleep.

Nursing at night is still one of my most pleasurable things. I like to put my feet and hands around your mama milk and just rest there, with my whole body luxuriating in the experience.

All night long we move with each other as one, just like when I was in your womb. We curve around each other, knowing where we are by our natures. My head rests on your arm. My hands and feet stroke your skin lazily as I dream.

I like to snuggle daddy sometimes. He has a different kind of warmth that comforts me. I sleep more peacefully knowing that both of my parents are here with me. He doesn’t share the daddy milk, but I will keep asking in case he ever changes his mind. Even while sleeping, I instinctually know to turn back to mama when I am hungry. I like to put my leg over daddy so I know he’s there while I’m snuggling mama.

On nights that I am sick or teething, I would not sleep if I didn’t have the steady company of mama overnight. Your presence allows me to go to sleep knowing you are always by my side. I can release my fear of falling asleep while sick and let my body do its work. If I wake, mama is there beside me to help ease my discomforts as I settle.

Now that I’m older, I like to fall asleep with my brothers as you read us books. My brothers and I spoon each other or hold hands as we drift off. It sets right any disagreements or annoyances we had during the day. It cements our bonds to each other in this special state where we are vulnerable.

After a couple of hours, I want to be with mama for the rest of the night. And my brothers still sleep with daddy most nights. I know the time will come when I need my own space to sleep at night, but I already know sleep is something safe and good for me.

And I know that I will always be welcome back into the big, safe bed whenever I want.


Your Snugglebug

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Safe Cosleeping Blog Carnival

Thanks for reading a post in the Safe Cosleeping Blog Carnival. On Carnival day, please follow along on Twitter using the #CosleepCar hashtag.
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:


  • Emotive Co-Sleeping Campaign – Miriam at Diary of an Unconscious Mother talks about her feelings on Milwaukee’s anti-cosleeping crusade and its latest advertising campaign.
  • Why Cosleeping has Always been the Right Choice for My Family – Patti at Jazzy Mama shares how lucky she feels to have the privilege of sleeping with her four children.
  • Cosleeping is a safe, natural and healthy solution parents need to feel good about. – See how Tilly at Silly Blatherings set up a side-car crib configuration to meet her and her families’ needs.
  • Black and White: Race and the Cosleeping Wars – Moorea at Mama Lady: Adventures in Queer Parenting points out the problem of race, class and health when addressing co-sleeping deaths and calls to action better sleep education and breastfeeding support in underprivileged communities.
  • Reflections on Cosleeping – Jenny at I’m a Full Time Mummy shares her thoughts on cosleeping and pictures of her cosleeping beauties.
  • Cosleeping and Transitioning to Own Bed – Isil at Smiling Like Sunshine shares her experiences in moving beyond the family bed.
  • What Works for One FamilyMomma Jorje shares why cosleeping is for her and why she feels it is the natural way to go. She also discusses the actual dangers and explores why it may not be for everyone.
  • Really High Beds, Co-Sleeping Safely, and the Humanity Family Sleeper – Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama gives a quick view of Jennifer’s bed-sharing journey and highlights the Humanity Family Sleeper, something Jennifer could not imagine bed-sharing without.
  • Crying in Our Family Bed – With such a sweet newborn, why has adding Ailia to the family bed made Dionna at Code Name: Mama cry?
  • Dear Mama: – Zoie at TouchstoneZ shares a letter from the viewpoint of her youngest son about cosleeping.
  • Cuddle up, Buttercup! – Nada of The MiniMOMist and her husband Michael have enjoyed cosleeping with their daughter Naomi almost since birth. Nada shares why the phrase “Cuddle up, Buttercup!” has such special significance to her.
  • Co-Sleeping With A Baby, Toddler, and Preschooler – Kerry at City Kids Homeschooling shares how co-sleeping calls us to trust our inner maternal wisdom and embrace the safety and comfort of the family bed.
  • Fear instead of Facts: An Opportunity Squandered in Milwaukee – Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction discusses Milwaukee’s missed opportunity to educate on safe cosleeping.
  • Cosleeping: A Mini-rant and a Lovely Picture – Siobhan at Res Ipsa Loquitor discusses her conversion to cosleeping and rants a little bit about the Milwaukee Health Department anti-cosleeping campaign.
  • Our Cosleeping Story – Adrienne at Mommying My Way shares her cosleeping story and the many bonus side effects of bedsharing.
  • Cosleeping can be safe and rewarding Christy at Mommy Outnumbered shares how her cosleeping experiences have been good for her family.
  • Adding one more to the family bed Lauren at Hobo Mama discusses the safety logistics of bed sharing with a new baby and a preschooler.
  • The Truth About Bedsharing – Dr. Sarah at Parenting Myths and Facts discusses the research into bedsharing and risk – and explains why it is so often misrepresented.
  • Cosleeping as a parenting survival tool – Melissa V. at Mothers of Change describes how she discovered cosleeping when her first baby was born. Melissa is the editor and a board member for the Canadian birth advocacy group, Mothers of Change.
  • Dear Delilah – Joella at Fine and Fair writes about her family bed and the process of finding the cosleeping arrangements that work best for her family.
  • CoSleeping ROCKS! – Melissa at White Noise talks about the evolution of cosleeping in her family.
  • Safe Sleep is a Choice – Tamara at Pea Wee Baby talks about safe sleep guidelines.
  • 3 Babies Later: The Evolution of our Family Bed – Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment talks about how her family’s cosleeping arrangements evolved as her family grew.
  • Tender MomentsThe Accidental Natural Mama discusses tender cosleeping moments.
  • Cosleeping Experiences – Lindsey at An Unschooling Adventure describes how she ended up co-sleeping with her daughter through necessity, despite having no knowledge of the risks involved and how to minimise them, and wishes more information were made available to help parents co-sleep safely.
  • The early days of bedsharing – Luschka at Diary of a First Child shares her early memories of bedsharing with her then new born and gets excited as she plans including their new arrival into their sleeping arrangements.
  • The Joys of Cosleeping in Pictures – Charise of I Thought I Knew Mama shares pictures of some of her favorite cosleeping moments.
  • Symbiotic Sleep – Mandy at Living Peacefully With Children discusses how the symbiotic cosleeping relationship benefits not only children but also parents.
  • Co-sleeping Barriers: What’s Stopping You? – Kelly at Becoming Crunchy shares how she was almost prevented from gaining the benefits of co-sleeping her family currently enjoys.
  • Co-Sleeping with the Family Humanity Sleeper – Erica at ChildOrganics shares a way to make co-sleeping safe, comfortable and more convenient. Check out her post featuring the Humanity Organic Family Sleeper.
  • Why We CosleepThat Mama Gretchen’s husband chimes in on why cosleeping is a benefit to their family.
  • Adding to the Family Bed – Darah at A Girl Named Gus writes about her co-sleeping journey and what happens when a second child comes along.

A big thank you to all of the Safe Cosleeping Blog Carnival participants!

23 thoughts on “I Let Mama Sleep in the Big Bed

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  8. I should know better than to read sweet posts like this when I’m at work. That actually brought tears to my eyes. What a sweet, sweet post. The emotions you share are exactly the reasons that I love it when my son decides that he wants to sleep by mommy and daddy.

  9. Beautiful! I love this perspective~it must be exactly what our babies are feeling when they come earthside!! I LOVE that photo of your littlest one curled around your breast with even his FEET hugging his milk…. Now how cute is that?!
    That photo says a million happy things. It’s awesome. Way to go! I think you may have the most original post in the carnival!! =)

  10. Oh, I love this post, Zoie! And your photos are absolutely precious! Like you, my complete assurance about cosleeping deepened with each child and I cannot imagine a better place for baby to sleep than in his mama’s arms. This is such a great post– thanks for sharing!

    -Kerry @ City Kids Homeschooling

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