Welcome to Week Two of the month-long Carnival of Creative Mothers to celebrate the launch of The Rainbow Way: Cultivating Creativity in the Midst of Motherhood
by Lucy H. Pearce.
Today’s topic is Creative Heroines. Do read to the end of this post for a full list of carnival participants.
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December 4th: Creative Inheritance.
December 11th: The Creative Process.
Arrange whatever pieces come your way.
There’s a war going on inside a mother’s heart. The drive to have something that’s solely for ourselves and the drive to nurture our children are rarely able to coexist peaceably. This battle is separate from what society says mothers should want, but is influenced by it.
In conversations with other mothers, we often come upon the topic of deferring our dreams until our children are a little older. We find there’s a mixture of guilt over not being entirely consumed with motherhood and frustration over wanting more for ourselves. We love parenting our children, but can feel like our lives (and our bodies) are not wholly our own.
If we dedicate ourselves full-time to parenting, we look wistfully over the fence at the greener grass of being fulfilled through work, pursuing education or our passions. If we work, we can wonder about whether being the full-time parent would be the better choice. For some, there isn’t a choice due to financial realities, but the questioning can be there still.
Deferring our personal dreams and choosing to do what is best for our families right now is rarely made without some nagging hesitancy. Societal pressures about women’s roles and motherhood roles don’t make the choices any easier. It’s not often to come across any message other than whatever the choice, it’s the wrong one, and how dare you even look for support instead of being eternally giving, patient, and fulfilled by your role as caretaker to all but yourself.
These are the pieces that we have. We receive them in whatever order they come. But what do we make of them?
One of my favorite quotes became more meaningful to me after I had children.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
I think about the creative energy we need in order to bring a child into adulthood and how it is exactly the same energy we use when we long for our dreams for ourselves. As parents, we are constantly observing the capacity of children to create with wild abandonment and we identify within it. The creative energy is reflected back into us and we feel triggered to create for ourselves.
We all need a room of our own in which to realize our passions. We need this space now even when work and parenting have us waiting.
The importance of being in the now and in not thinking of the future are vitally important to true happiness. To me this means that visualizing everything that we want as already being right here, right now is how we stave off being frustrated with delaying our dreams as mothers and as individuals.
I spend time, especially the moments where I must stop doing, like when I’m breastfeeding or cuddling while children drift to sleep, repeating that all I have and all I want is here with me in this moment. I picture the things I want as already being here and I look for ways in which they are already occurring.
I make the pictures so real that I can feel what I want is already here within my reach. I can feel content, even if short-lived, with the balance I have chosen.
Every action I take and every word I say is a part of the choices I make for creating work, parenting, and personal dreams. It’s the times that I step out of this flow that I realize my frustrations and worries step in. I stop creating when I stop listening to the pieces I’ve been dealt and the chaos inside.
These other mothers who share their constant struggles to balance their inner war are my inspirations to cultivate creativity all around me. They write blogs, articles, and books. They tweet and update. Their voices matter. They are using their collective inner spark to create passions in themselves, their children, and the world around them by voicing their pain and joy.
Each day they choose to nurture their children and not give in to the personal and societal pressures to give every ounce of their passion to others. Keeping the creative spark inside births, albeit painfully at times, the life that they really want now.
Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.
Post for NaBloPoMo
(Since I’m writing most of these late at night, in bed, while tandem nursing twins, I’m choosing to concentrate on writing rather than formatting, proof-reading, researching or editing as much as I’d like. Please forgive the extra typos and non-nonsensical grammar. Thank you.)
(Photo 1 credit: Shaun Case, Photo 2 credit: @Doug88888)
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- Carnival host and author of The Rainbow Way, Lucy at Dreaming Aloud celebrates her creative fairy godmothers, and gives thanks for the creative blessings that each has gifted her.
- And on her other site, The Happy Womb, Lucy expresses her sadness at a lack of real-life female mentors and Wise Women in her life so far.
- Becky at Soul Sunshine shares the creativity heroines– her Saviors– who reactivated her creative heart after a near-20-year-hiatus.
- Lucy Pierce from Soulskin Musings explores the ways in which three artists have inspired her to follow the inner wild of her own creative narrative and it’s interface with the forces of nature and of Spirit.
- Kae at The Wilde Womb shares how she invokes her inner child when summoning creative juices.
- Zoie at TouchstoneZ reflects on the women who have inspired her most.
- Alex at The Art of Birth shares her Journey of a Creative Mama which is all about liberating the Feminine through Art.
- Laura at Authentic Parenting is grateful to those women who have inspired her.
- Who most inspires Georgie at Visual Toast? She’ll tell you here!
- Please come to the dinner party, invites Nicki at Just Like Play, where we will celebrate Judy Chicago, art, womanhood, and the creative kitchen table.
- Becky at Raising Loveliness shares her creative heroines.
- Dawn Collins at The Barefoot Home honors three artistic mothers in the post:her strong willed Nona, her free spirited mother and the best solo artist ever… Mother Earth.
- Angela at Peach Coglo looks to her grandma and granny as her creative heroines when the creative going gets tough.
- Jennifer at Let Your Soul Shine wears odd socks proudly!
- Kelly at Knittingandthings shares how she turned her grief into helping others
- Biromums remember their biggest creative heroines.
- Darcel at The Mahogany Way shares who inspires her.
- Aimée at Creativeflutters discusses which artists influence her in her creative journey. Find out how she nourishes herself as a creative mother, and finds the time to help other moms on their journeys.
- Creativity is something that’s always meant the most to Jasmine at Brown Eyed Girl and she can’t wait to take the journey in identifying herself and supporting other moms with it as well.
- KatyStuff has a mother who allowed her to make mud pies while she knit or embroidered near by.
- Ali Baker is a creative mama to twin girls who reignited her creative energy and sense of who she used to be by just doing it and creating whatever needs to be created in an imperfect way.
- Liz at Reckless Knitting remembers her biggest inspirations.
- Milochka at Art Play Day shares her creative heroines.